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Laid back, intelligent, fun loving, caring, strict Dom

I'm laid-back and fun-loving, but I can also be strict and demand obedience.
I have a background in psychology, so I'm very good at aftercare, protecting my subs both physically and emotionally, and helping my sub to grow as a person and in the lifestyle.
I'm not the right Dom for every sub. No Dom is. I'm not into s/m, heavy bondage, or extreme edge play. I'm attached, so I only play part-time and discretion is a must.
There are too many websites to join, so if you want to contact me please do so directly.
However, because of my nature and background I'm a great Dom for a new sub. I will be patient, but strict. I give you the emotional support you need during what can be a very emotional transition time in your life with all the new feelings and sensations. If the fit is right you will experience deeper feelings of intimacy than you ever have before.
It is not enough for a first Dom to be real and not just an abuser, he has to be able to help you deal with the emotions and changes and also teach you what to look for in a new Dom when you outgrow me.
I only play sane, safe, and consensual. I will not accept a sub into training who isn't honest about her emotions, communicates poorly, or is too passive. A sub who doesn't know what she wants, can't communicate her needs and desires honestly, or doesn't stand up for herself, even against her Dom (if it's called for) is a danger to herself and a risk to her Dom.
Doms can be wrong and can make mistakes. In a healthy Dom/sub relationship the sub will have respectful ways she can raise issues to her Dom and a good Dom will admit when he's wrong. A sub who is too passive will hold the relationship back from being as intimate as it can be.
I'm into light to moderate bondage, role playing, fantasy fulfillment, spanking, whipping, biting, hair pulling, toys, oral, anal, threesomes, sensory deprivation and lots of other stuff. I'm on a journey of sexual discovery and enlightenment so I'm also open to trying lots of new things too, including an occasional switch.
A sub who pleases me can stay as long as she wants, but I don't hold a sub back if she decides she wants to live the lifestyle 24/7 or wants to get into more extreme play.
When you leave my training you will have all the fundamentals of service down, have a good sense of who you are and where you fit in the lifestyle, and know how to tell the difference between a good Dom and a poser. You will be in a far safer and more knowledgeable position to progress further into the lifestyle.

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Public Sex preferences

Favorite public sex places:Meadow, beach, library, elevator.
The riskiest place I've had a sexual encounter:Open convertible while I was driving down a busy highway in the middle of the day.

Appearance

EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageGerman
BuildMuscular
Height178 cm
Eye ColorGreen
Hair ColorDark brown
Hair LengthShort
Facial HairShaved
Best featureEyes
Body ArtNone
Health ConditionNo special condition
Endowment (length)Average
Endowment (width)Thick
CircumcisedYes
My AttractivenessAverage

Situation

Relationship StatusMarried
Has childrenChildren don't live with me
Wants kidsNo
Housing SituationAll is calm
Living ArrangementsWith roomate(s)
Wants to RelocateNo
AvailabilityDiscreetly
Has a carYes

Education & Employment

Employment StatusSelf-employed
Job TitleBoss

Looking For

I prefer:Intelligence, Good Looks, Humor, Great skills, Empathy, Boldness, Flirtatiousness, Wit, Thoughtfulness
Our first dateCoffee. I believe first dates should be in a neutral location with no expectations or pressure. Especially true when intro was online.

BDSM Preferences

I'm turned on byBondage / Discipline (B&D), Domination / Submission (D&S)
My role isDominant
I am seekingA sub
I live the lifestyleOnly when I can
I enjoyBiting, body worship, Bondage, Candle wax, Collar & lead / leash, Cupping, Depilation / shaving, Fisting, Hair pulling, Power exchange, Sensory deprivation, Spanking, Tickling games, Whipping
Open To Photos & VideosDepends on the partner
My most pleasurable encounter wasI love the first scene with a new sub. After all the getting to know you, negotiating and contracting the first time a sub puts herself into your hands and trusts you completely with no real reason to, that's special to me.

Sexual Activities

Night life:Night clubs, Strip clubs, Swapping parties, Regular Bars, Movies, Munches

Sexual Interests

CybersexEvery once in a while
Oral Sex isMy favorite
Anal sex isFun sometimes
Sex toys:Anal beads, Butt plugs/probes, Clitoral stimulator, Cock ring, Dildos/Vibrators, Vibrating eggs/bullets
Size matterSometimes, depends on the person
"Off Limits":s/m, blood, anything that puts my sub into dangerous physical or emotional situations that I don't have complete control over.

Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasyI want to try switching. I can't believe how hard it is to find a woman willing to peg a guy.
Fantasy locationTrain, Moving car, At a park, Dark alley, Kitchen, Elevator, Hot tub, Movie theatre, Dressing room, On the beach, My office, Library, In a taxi cab, Restaurant
Fantasy sex partner:You

Spanking Preferences

Kind of spanking:Dominant / Submissive Spanking
Role:I prefer doing the spanking
Use safety words:Always
Include sex and orgasm:Sometimes
Positions:OTK - Over the knee, Lying face down, Over a chair / bed / desk, Over the masters lap, Handcuffed to bed, Tied to something outside in a safe area, Other
Implement:Hand, Rulers / Martinet, Wooden Spoon, Other
Pain level:Light Marks